Feeling guilty when you think about doing something for yourself?
Do you need some convincing as to why you should? Do you need help acknowledging your need for self-care?
You've already given so much of yourself today – to your kids, your work, your responsibilities. Don't forget that you have a responsibility to yourself.
You love your family beyond words yet not taking care of yourself does not enable you to take care of them with the quality and attention that you'd want. If you still need convincing, here are 5 reasons why you should prioritize taking care of yourself this week!
We care for ourselves so we can teach our daughters and sons to take care of themselves.
We are 100% responsible for our own actions. Regardless of what is going on in the world. If we don't than we are relying on others to be the source of our happiness. But that also causes us to pass them the blame when we are unbalanced.
We owe it to ourselves to be the source of love, just like we are a source of love for our family. We need to speak up, with open hearts and without blame if something isn't working for us. With kindness, yet unapologetically, communicate and take responsibility for your needs.
2 - When mama is happy, the house is happy
We don't want our kids to remember us as sad or angry. Strong, firm, loving, creative, supportive, fair, fun – those are the qualities that come to mind when I think about how I want to be remembered. Yet when we are tired, feeling under-appreciated, taxed and spread too thin, every problem is bigger than it probably is.
Taking time for ourselves gives us fresh perspective, hope, renewed calm, creative approaches to problems and elicits more patience and smiles. Smiles in the house are so so good!
3 - You don't have time to get sick
There is no time in your day to be down for the count. Feeling sluggish makes our day harder and longer. Being outright ill form the flu or worse can throw everything out of whack (without even considering any financial strain from loss of work or insurance details).
Taking care of your health is a non-negotiable. Go to bed a little bit earlier, hydrate, spend extra on the better quality vitamins (pharmaceutical grade only!), try a healing modality such as massage or acupuncture, work with a health coach or holistic nutritionist to try an elimination diet - whatever you need based on where you are. Simple changes can keep you on top of your game.
4 - The positive flow of life wants to support you
Say yes to yourself and self-care and the flow of life will flow towards you. Simply put, good things come as you stay open and go towards good things.
You will find new things that you like that feel good and support you. Spirituality, friends, activities, interests. You re-discover the parts of you that you forgot and you have FUN! It's fun to spend time with a friend and to schedule something to look forward to. Participate in an event in your communicate, connect with someone new from the school, or catch up with a friend you haven't seen in months. Make the effort.
It's also fun to spend time with just yourself. More and more opportunities will show up to support you because now you are in tune with them.
5 - Celebrate yourself because you're doing a great job!
We spend so much time arranging and organizing and running the whole show that we feel guilty walking away from it, even for just a little bit.
Instead of having the guilt stop you why not re-frame the guilt. The guilty feelings are natural because you're an amazing QueenBee and care so much. Therefore the guilty feelings just prove that you're already doing an amazing job. The guilt-filled looks, comments or pouts from the kids just reinforces that your family loves you too!
Remind the kids that mama is re-charging her batteries and it is part of what you do. Soon it will be commonplace for them. They'll respect that that is part of the flow of the family and they will honor it - for themselves and others as well.
Pretty compelling reasoning isn't it?
Your self-care needs will evolve and shift everyday, but they will always be part of your Mom Flow.