How many of us talk about our resolutions every January, left to wonder what happened to them by February?
If only I could be more organized...if only I could lose 10lbs...I want more willpower...I wish had more energy.
I am not thinking along resolutions any more...instead, a personal revolution! An inner resolve that is greater and deeper and more passionate to help me lead a truly happier life.
Will you join me?
Here is my list of revolutions:
1 - ME time
I know life is busy. Life is full. You keep track of it all. It's an art! You are the master of logistics and the keeper of the calendar. So while you are, make sure you book yourself some personal time. Sometimes we feel like we can't relax unless it's a weekend away, but that's not true. Book something FUN!
2 - Strengthen my Relationship
It's for both of us - my hubby and me. Do you want to have deeper connections? Miss your partner? Miss your sex life? Take the time to connect - intimacy can be met on many different levels. If you want more love and more touch and more connection we need to give more of each of those things. Keeping our relationships strong help every other interaction we have go smoother.
3 - Eat more greens
Instead of resolving to lose 10lbs this year, what I need to remember is revolutionize what we fill our fridge with. Not a diet, but lifestyle choices. Fill it up with more greens, legumes and fruits and there won't be any room left in there for the poorer food choices that drag us down.
Always frame our food choices in a positive note - we are ‘filled and fulfilled’ rather than deprived.
4 - Cut out sugar
At least cut back! Aim for less than 25g a day. Starting by choosing packaged items with 15g or less - be wary of yogurt, granola, breads or cereals!
I feel you. This is a real addiction for me and every time I cut something out I am one step closer to mastering my own health.
There will be a few days of inner revolt but we are in this to win and feel better and energize our cells! A piece of smooth dark chocolate melting in your mouth goes a long way to satisfy any cravings!
5 - One on one time with each child
When managing all the boys logistics it is easy to get frazzled, have less patience and more yelling. What helps is slowing down in between and connecting. But how? By purposely connecting one-on-one with each boy. Separate them, without homework or errands and just hang out. Chit chat over Lego, or bring them a tea and a cuddle. 10-15 minutes. Not a huge time investment but massive on the connection. We all respect each other and appreciate each other more afterwards. There is less jealousy from my little one and my older son feels like he is being heard and not always catering to my younger sons needs.
6 - Early to bed - if not every night - pick a couple of set nights
This is another one I need to master. I sometimes feel like I have 3 full time jobs and of course I am going to continue to work and push after the kids are in bed. What helps is when I schedule ‘early to bed’ in my calendar nights. It doesn't happen every night, but having it scheduled ensures that I am aware of the time, and I get a couple in a week so I can continue to function and be a nice mama to my boys. Everything works better when we are rested!
7 - Pick ways to improve your environment- toxic cleaners/ dirty dozen/ insect repellents
By making cleaner choices we are choosing to fill our home with safe and kinder products that are in turn gentler on our family’s health. Beyond that, it is not just the products effect on our skin and respiratory system, but also on the environment if you consider the production of pollutants it would have taken to create those ingredients before they even got to your door.
Off-season produce or budget constraints make it hard to always buy organic foods, but follow the dirty dozen list and we bring home the best choices in food.
8 - Know you are awesome
Repeat after me: am a kind and patient mother.
I am doing the best I can every day
I am providing everything my children need and they love me.
See - we are! Everyday will not be the most productive or the calmest but everyday those statements are true. Revolutionize your self-love! This is not selfish or arrogant, or illusionary. It's kindness that you can spread to others as it becomes natural for yourself.
9 - Gut health
The connection between body and mind is super powerful. As we allow ourselves to ‘listen’ to our bodies, to our intuition, we strengthen the communication between the two.
I believe we can actually improve gut function and our intuition at the same time. Our GI is responsible for up to 80% of our immunity so keeping it healthy improves life in so many ways. Take a pharmaceutical grade probiotic - one that guarantees to surpass your stomach acid. I give one to my kids too. Eat fermented foods, but ones whose organisms are still alive. Pickles and sauerkraut that need to be refrigerated are best choices.
10 - Mind your mind
We have almost 70,000 thoughts go through our head every day - most of them repeated from the day before. How many of them are thoughts of patience or kindness or forgiveness?
Stop and listen to yourself.
Is your whole day shitty or did some off things happen? Is everyone out to get you? Is everyone on purpose trying to drive you crazy?
You can't honestly answer those questions in an emphatic yes.
Take a breath and reflect. Reframe what you are experiencing. A ‘bad’ thing or event does not define your day or your life.
We are a QueenBee's! Elevate your thoughts! Focus on what makes you smile when you are getting negative and find yourself complaining.
By shifting our mindset and making small, impactful changes, we will not only rock this year but also rock a new lifestyle.